When it comes to your own relationship with God, it’s not easy, but it’s definitely easier to manage than bringing God into a romantic relationship. Avoiding sin and keeping your relationship grounded in your religion is one of the most important things you can do as a Christian. Because if all aspects of your life aren’t centered around Christ, then you’re definitely doing something wrong!
We sat down with Andrea and Chris, a couple who have grounded their 10-year-long marriage in Christ, to talk about their secrets to living a happy, godly life together.
“A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24)
When it comes to making a space for ourselves, we knew that we wouldn’t be able to live happily in a room in our parent’s house or even with roommates! We knew that we needed to break off from our previous way of life – living with our family and friends – to create our life of our own. Our first apartment wasn’t anything special on the outside, but it was definitely special to us as it was our first home as husband and wife!
“Be kindly affectionate to one another … in honor giving preference to one another” (Romans 12:10)
Flirting doesn’t stop after marriage! One of the things we noticed a few years into our marriage is that we kind of stopped flirting with one another. We started to make sure we went on dates and did special things for one another. We acted like we were first dating.
And I know that a lot of people don’t want to talk about it, but we definitely needed to spice things up in bed to keep things feeling fresh!
“As he thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7)
You need to be your own thought police sometimes. And that includes making sure that your thoughts aren’t wandering to sexual places when it comes to other men or women. Additionally, you need to make sure that you’re not letting angry thoughts fester in your mind! It’s better to talk about what’s bothering you than to clam up.
“Do not let the sun go down on your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26)
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “Never go to bed angry,” but the truth is that some arguments and disagreements can’t be resolved in a day. We make sure that we never go to bed without getting to a good place with one another. Even if the problem is still unresolved, we work together to figure it out a piece of it before we go to bed.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it” (Psalm 127:1)
We make sure that everything we do is centered around god. Because if we don’t have God at the center of our relationship, then we know we’re doing something wrong. When it comes to raising our children, handling our finances, and building our lives, we always keep god in the center.
“Pray for one another” (James 5:16)
We support one another, that means that we also pray for one another. We often pray together, and we make sure the other knows we’re keeping them in our prayers.
“He who disdains instruction despises his own soul” (Proverbs 15:32)
We don’t let bitterness and our own tempers cloud our discussions when we get into disagreements. We make sure we listen to how the other person feels and how we can be better.