Think about what it really means to have a “girlfriend”.
What are the positives and the negatives? Sure, there are some great advantages to having a girlfriend: regular sex, someone to support you, someone to go places with. But what about the downsides?
Constantly having to memorize birthdays and anniversaries. Having to spend time with their friends and family. Being forced to visit places you don’t want to go. Constant expectations of spending time together. Temper tantrums when you choose your friends over her. Dinners out, exchanging gifts, constant communication with each other, only being able to sleep with one person.
Need I say any more?
The disadvantages of being in a relationship by far outweigh the advantages. However, there’s a simple solution: friends with benefits.
A friend with benefits basically takes all the good parts of a relationship and amplifies them to a hundred. You’ll be able to have sex whenever you want it, you’ll be able to go on dates with them when it suits you both, and you won’t be expected to spend time with their family during the holidays.
Sounds pretty perfect, right?
That’s why friends with benefits are becoming a staple in modern society. Some lucky people out there have realized that in today’s modern hectic world, juggling a relationship alongside friends, family, work and personal time can be a real chore. It’s not easy to allocate sufficient time to all of these things and still maintain a healthy romantic relationship with a long-term partner.
But of course, these people still crave the upsides that come with romantic attachment, with sex being the most obvious. A friend with benefits lets you set the pace without having to worry about the constant expectations that come along with regular relationships.
If you can’t commit to a particular evening with your meet and fuck buddy, you won’t feel as bad as you would if you were disappointing your long-term partner. A friends with benefits relationship means that you’re both aware that other things in your life will take priority, and so it’s not like you’re breaking a pre-arranged agreement with them if you cancel on them one night.
Perhaps the biggest advantage to a friends with benefits relationship, however, is the complete freedom you have over your own life while still receiving regular sex and fulfillment. You’re not expected to remember their birthday, you won’t have to get them a Christmas gift, and any expectations for the relationship to grow aren’t present at all.
FWBs are relationships with a minimal amount of emotion involved. In many cases, there’s no emotion at all. They’re based on purely physical connections and nothing else, thus allowing you receive the sexual gratification you crave without having to neglect other parts of your life.
If you’re looking for your own friends with benefits relationships, there are endless sites and apps dedicated to finding someone like-minded. Your first point of call should be the high profile dating sites like Match and POF, followed by lesser-known ones like Pure, Blendr, and Happn.